Dealing with separation anxiety can be just as hard on the parent as it is on the child and the idea of having to relinquish full control to another authoritative, care figure or teacher can feel a little daunting. Children and parents need to give themselves the right amount of time to adjust to this new lifestyle and these changes while understanding that everybody goes through something very similar – it does get better. Being proactive and positive about this new transition is very important.
Here are a few tips to getting through separation anxiety:
Communicate with the Teacher
Having a good and active relationship with the teacher can lift a little of the daily worry that you feel as a parent and can allow you to stay up-to-date with what is going on with your little one in the classroom or at daycare. They also may have some ideas to help improve your child’s overall separation anxiety and useful tips for transitioning your child positively into the classroom every day. Asking for help from someone who has seen the same behaviours continuously from previous children can allow you to come up with proactive solutions that can help. It is important to understand that it’s okay to ask for help. With a little time and the assistance of the teacher, you will start to have an easier time with this transition & feel more at ease that your child is well taken care of.
Remember this Behaviour is Normal.
Every child goes through separation anxiety at one point in their life. Remembering that this happens to everyone can relieve some of the concern you may have about your child’s behaviour. Of course, some children have it more severely than others, and each child is different so that the solutions may be a little altering, but each child deals with it at some point. Kids can start developing separation anxiety as early as six months, and this can be due to current changes & transitions happening in their lives.
Stick to a Routine
Sticking to a routine can help ease your child into the daily transition of going to daycare. It is important that your child feels a sense of security with their everyday routine, which can help them feel comfortable, consistent, and normal. Creating a chart with your daily routines is an excellent visual for your child to follow and get comfortable with. These tasks can be as simple as morning cuddles, eating breakfast or brushing their teeth. If you know the routine must change due to certain circumstances, make sure you prepare them the day before so that there are no surprises on an actual day, leaving them in distress or confusion.
Saying goodbye seems like an obvious and straightforward task, but it can mean the world to your child and help ease their separation anxiety at drop off. It is important while you say your goodbyes that you keep your own emotions in check, so your child doesn’t detect your anxiety forming. Reassuring them that you will be back after your done work and that they have nothing to worry about can help ease their little minds. Say your goodbyes only once and give trust to the teacher. They have dealt with these situations many times and have effective solutions to comforting your child once you have left.
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